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Love is The Bridge of All Gaps

The fact is that all of us are prejudice. Prejudice is embracing feelings based on opinions formed within minutes of being among someone or something.

 

3 Cognitive Biases That Affect Our Decisions Every Day

Many people wonder how their life took a turn for better or worse. A person’s mentality often gets overlooked. There are several concepts including The Law of Attraction that people consider it being nothing more than fluff. 

As a society, we are faced with challenges that forms our cognitive biases. Those cognitive biases affect our everyday decisions. With those years of decisions, we start to have a better understanding about how our lives have become what they are today.

Here are three cognitive biases that affect our daily decisions:

1.  I Can’t Do That

“I spent the last 30 years of my life doing things that others can’t do or won’t do. [Many of my successes have been based on] people telling me that I couldn’t do something.

I was told that I couldn’t build a website development company. So, I built and designed websites for companies like Microsoft and Sun Microsystems,” says Chuck Blakeman (Serial Entrepreneur & Author of Making Money Is Killing Your Business).

Unfortunately, many people fall victim into believing that they can’t do something. Sadly, people are told such things from people that they admire. Like Chuck Blakeman, there are countless examples of people who have taken ideas and turn them into success stories. despite being in the midst of naysayers.

Your task is not to sulk in those beliefs but instead prove them wrong. Success is a journey that starts by taking one step at a time. In my younger years, I wanted to be an international bestselling author. It took me years to realize that I have to truly believe in something if I wanted to see it come to fruition.

I had to first believe that it was possible to become an international bestselling author before becoming one. This year marks a significant milestone in my life, which is being a bestselling author in three countries.

2. I Don’t Need Anyone

“A lot of our happiness or unhappiness comes from the quality of our relationships. Human connection fuels happiness”, says Scott Crabtree (Founder & Chief Happiness Officer of Happy Brain Science).

There are a lot of people who carry around an ultra independent attitude. I personally admire someone who is independent. The problem is that independence can sometimes be used as an illusion for a person’s ego. Independence is obviously better than dependence. However, interdependence is better than both of them.

There is nothing wrong with asking for help. Accepting the help of others will usually shorten the learning curve in anything you want to pursue in life. It does not make you any less independent. Stephen Covey (Author of the NY Times Bestseller, 7 Habits of Highly Effective People) agrees that we function best when we recognize and works towards the role of interdependence.

None of us is perfect. We all have weaknesses. So, why not let someone who is strong in your weak areas to help you?

3. I Have No Purpose

“You have to decide your mission in your life. That’s your guide. What kind of impact do you want to have on the planet? Be very clear about it [because if your mission] is hazy, it will be very difficult”, says Aubrey Marcus (Founder & CEO of Onnit).

Many people can make different arguments about the origin of our nature. However, I think the overwhelming majority of us share the same theme on life: You only live once. So, make the most of it. I hope you are moving with the time because it will continue to move with or without you.

Wayne Dyer and Stephen Covey are two examples of inspirational role models who left a legacy for us. My goal is to leave a legacy too. Since the Great Recession, I have helped over 2,000 people reach the finish line and you can too. My message is still the same.

Success is unavailable to the majority because the majority are unavailable.

The article originally appeared on LifeHack.

 

5 Mental Habits That Can Make You a Stronger Person

Thinking. We do it nearly every second of our lives. We cannot help it. It is part of our nature. Our parents and friends often influence our mental habits- and these habits can make or break us.

Are your thoughts enabling you to achieve success, or disabling you? It is probably the most important question that you can ask yourself, but how often do you ask yourself that question?

The worse thing that you can do is succumb to the opinions of others. You can become mentally strong by committing yourself to develop emotional intelligence. So, here are five habits that can make you a mentally strong person:

1. Be Willing To Take Risks

Not everyone is courageous. Taking risks can be quite frightening, whether it is quitting your job for an ideal lifestyle or moving abroad to pursue a lucrative business opportunity.

In order to be confident in taking risks, you must increase your ability to live with uncertainty. It does not sound comforting. However, if you never take a chance, then you will always remain where you are currently.

It may be scary, but it does not mean that it cannot be exciting. The thrill of taking the risk can be the very thing that helps you to reach the finish line. Many successful people attribute their success to the risks that they took at the beginning of their journey.

2. Embrace Change

Change does not always sit well with us. Some people enjoy their routines and don’t like rocking the boat. I have routines that I enjoy, myself. Although, once we fall in the comfort zone, it may spell the very end of our growth.

Change serves us. It offers us learning opportunities that ultimately expand our awareness.

Immersing yourself in a different environment can surely do the trick. As an expat, I enjoy a lifestyle that is quite different, and even uncomfortable for some, but it has its benefits.

3. Stay Positive

There are many times when people preach the importance of being positive. Unfortunately, most of these people have trouble maintaining that momentum. Nothing is worse than having a therapist or life coach who is advising you, but fails to apply the same advice to their own life.

Staying positive is extremely important if one expects to become a mentally strong person.

We will always encounter obstacles in our path. For most people, it almost an immediate process to allow their emotions to influence their thoughts and decisions.

There are always two perspectives with which you can view every experience – a positive one and a negative one. The question is: which perspective will you choose?

4. Focus On What You Can Control

One of our main problems is that we worry too much. We often worry about things that we cannot control. Occasionally, I am guilty of it too. Although, we can all do better when we concentrate on the things that matter most in our lives.

While people may attempt to control other people, it is ultimately a waste of one’s time. You do have control over your life. So, invest your time in focusing on your life rather than worrying about others.

5. Always Remember The Big Picture

Everyone has a different conception of the big picture. It is pertinent for us to keep this in mind, or we will risk losing sight of our direction.

The big picture serves to remind us of our purpose as we continue our journey to the finish line. It helps to have someone to join us as an accountability partner; it makes reaching the finish line much easier.

Some people may feel alone on their journey, but an inspirational book, movie, or podcast can definitely curb that feeling of loneliness and remind you of the big picture.

This article originally appeared on LifeHack.